Helping a family member in need is typically seen as an important part of being someone’s social support system. But there is a fine line between giving some assistance now and then and being on call 24/7, with the implication that one is free to drop everything and help.

A man turned to the internet for advice after having multiple conflicts with his brother over babysitting. The brother had, without any warning, dropped off his kids at the man’s house, despite being told no. So the man simply drove them to the brother’s MIL’s home, which ended up enraging him.

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Boundaries tend to look simple on paper and get messy around a real family table. What stands out here is that the limit was stated plainly and then treated as a suggestion. Saying “I’m done babysitting” is about as specific as a boundary gets, and a drop off on the doorstep days later shows how little weight the other side gave it.